I'm a trauma survivor
I was sexually abused for almost a decade of my childhood. As a result, I felt broken, unworthy, and crushed under an enormous weight of shame. I felt I would never be good enough, deserving of love or valuable unless I was perfect in every way. I tried for years to be perfect, but not only failed but collapsed under the pressure. I ended up with depression so severe I spent many years in and out of psychiatric wards. I survived a suicide attempt in 1994. After that, I found an excellent Trauma Recovery Program and received the appropriate diagnosis of Complex Post Traumatic Disorder. Finally, I had providers who knew about trauma recovery who genuinely cared about me and my recovery.
Unfortunately, I moved away and couldn't find another good trauma recovery program in the city I was living in. For another decade I tried to handle things on my own, and did horribly. I married a man I had no business marrying. I ended up homeless and deeply mired in depression once again. Working with a new psychiatrist with excellent trauma recovery knowledge, I finally reached a place of recovery. Now it's my goal to teach other survivors what I learned to prevent them from having to take decades to recover.
I'm a trauma recovery Coach
I have been a therapist for 19 years. My Master's Degree is in Marriage and Family Therapy. Two years ago I moved into coaching because I found its collaborative nature to be much more successful in the treatment of trauma survivors. Much of the damage trauma survivors sustain occurs within a relationship (they are abused by parents or battered by a spouse). As a result, much of their deep healing work occurs within the context of a healthy, healing relationship. I work very hard to establish this type of relationship with my clients. I earn their trust. I let them know I genuinely care about them. I empower them to make good decisions in their recovery journey. I guide and advise them, but never tell them what to do or how to do it. I believe every survivor is in charge of their recovery. We may not have had much power when we were in the midst of our trauma. But we do now. My goal is to help my clients grasp that power and use it to their best advantage to move through their recovery and into the space where they are reclaiming a joyful, fulfilling life.
Other tidbits about me
I'm an author
I have two published books: Create Your Personal Sacred Text and Discovering True, An Anthology from The #NoMoreShame Project. I have multiple books scheduled for publication in 2017: resource guides for survivors along with my memoir. I'm a regular contributor at RachelintheOC.com writing about trauma and trauma recovery.
I'm a single mom
I have a teenage son who I'm very proud to say has never experienced any kind of abuse. I broke the cycle of inter-generational abuse for him. And he's so worth it!
Portland, oregon is my heart's hometown
No, I wasn't born there but I lived there for 15 years of my life and fell in love with it. The scenery, the vibe and the people are all vibrant and warm. It is my heart's home. Right now I live in Dallas, Texas but in the next five years I will find my way home again.
i'm a videocaster and podcaster
Athena Moberg, a fellow Trauma Recovery Coach, and I do a live videocast every week about Trauma Recovery. You can watch on the #NoMoreShame Project website. I have two podcasts set to debut by the end of 2016.
i'm a dog mom
I have a chihuahua named Copper who goes nowhere that is more than 50 feet from his beloved fuzzy pink blanket
i'm a fiber artist
I turn glorious animal fibers such as cashmere, sheep's wool, alpaca and silk into felted scarves and meditation/prayer shawls
I love all things sparkly and pretty
i didn't have a lot of pretty things as a child. Nor did I ever feel that I was pretty. Now though, I've reclaimed pretty and added in some sparkly!